Wednesday, February 15, 2017

All We Need Is Some More Love


As a beautiful Valentine’s week went by, I’ve been thinking about love, and the kinds of love there are- love that’s easy, and love that’s hard, love that makes you wilder and love that makes you wiser, love that makes the years fly by and love that seems to pause the time. But as I think deeper, the differences dissolve. Maybe it’s all the same; maybe there’s just one kind of love after all- the one that makes the moonlight and sea waves, the one that led us to fly over mountains and dive in deep waters, the one that made art and innovation possible. Maybe it’s this love that’s driven us all along.

It is in the moments of love that we truly live. When you hold a newborn in your arms for the first time, when your parents shed a tear or two dropping you off at college, when a special someone writes you a love note- in these moments you experience an intense, enduring, almost divine kind of love. But these moments of love are far and few. And it aches me to say that they are not enough. It aches me to say that there’s a lack of love in our everyday lives. The way we define success today has made us all cautious, cold and competitive.

And I wonder why- why don’t I love an old friend enough to forgive her; why don’t I love my body enough to wake up for that yoga class; and why don’t I love that pedestrian enough to let him cross the road? It aches me and I wonder why.

We have been conditioned to believe that love is a feeling- something that happens to us. But what if I were to tell you that love is an action, it is something that you give, do or create- on purpose. So, the next time you hear someone say- “I don’t love this city”, or “I don’t love my wife anymore”, look deep into their eyes and tell them to love more. Tell them to consciously make a commitment towards the welfare or happiness of the city or the person. Tell them to create more love, with their thoughts, words and actions.

In fact, I believe that each of us can make our lives better by just adding a few units of love. If you love your father enough to let him win an argument; you love your client enough to give him world class service; you love a stranger enough to return the phone he lost; and you love yourself enough to be the best version of yourself- MAGIC could happen. In whatever form love is created- empathy, kindness, joy, peace, patience, satisfaction or excitement- it leads to a connection beyond words. In that briefest fraction of a moment, you experience oneness- not just with the other person, but with all of life’s forces. No matter where love is created, how much, and by whom- I’d like to believe that it’s the fundamental reason for our existence.

Everything around us that is meaningful and beautiful was created with some extra love- from airplanes and smartphones, symphonies and paintings, haute couture, gourmet food and beautiful sea side resorts. Someone somewhere poured all of their heart’s love into something and it is this love that manifests in their creation. It is this very love that warms up our hearts too.

So, this Valentine’s, add more love to whatever you do. Do your job with more love, start your business with more love, initiate a friendship with more love and stick with the marriage with more love. You may notice that some people have a different skin colour, language or God than your own; co-exist with them with more love. You may even notice that some people have different opinions than your own; disagree if you must, but disagree with more love. And when you drive back home this evening, drive with more love. And even if the traffic or the weather is driving you crazy, just hang in there with some more love. Wish you a very happy Valentine’s!